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You
Did Not Fail
© 2002 Deborah Brown
Has
your work life been crazy lately?
Today's work environment is tough. Psychologically, the
uncertainty has taken a toll on all of us. In many cases we
are not as successful as we were a few years ago. And, even
though we know it is not our fault, we are blaming
ourselves.
After all, whom else can we blame? If we are sending out
resumes and not getting replies, it has to be something we
have done wrong. Maybe we did not use the right words. Maybe
our cover letter was not that effective. Maybe nobody wants
us. If we are at work and a project we wanted funded was
turned down, it has to be our fault. Maybe we did not have
the right conversations with the right people. Maybe we did
not propose the idea very well.
Here is the truth; it is not your fault. You are working
harder than you ever have in very difficult times. Applaud
your effort. And, please know that you are not alone.
So
What Can You Do To Beat Your Feelings Of Failure?
1. Recognize That You Did Not Fail
Even though we read in the paper that the economy is not
doing well, we are still looking inward for the reasons that
we are not succeeding. This is a useless exercise. You are
not the cause of our country's economic situation. Your
present situation is a character building period in your
life, and it will get better. Happier times will be here
sooner than you think.
2. Decide What's Important To You
Maybe there is more to life than money and material
possessions. Could being fulfilled in your work be more
valuable? It really does not matter what career you have as
long as you are happy. Are you doing what you love? If not,
what is stopping you? It is important to discover what you
want, so you can create a future that ignites your passion.
3. Recognize That What Lies Around The Corner Is
Inspiration
What have you learned from this experience? I bet you have
learned to rely on yourself more. You probably have learned
to trust that you can handle whatever comes your way.
Remember that out of darkness comes light. The light is what
brings vision and purpose into your life.
4. Decide What You Will Do Next
Your career is not something that you fix when you have to.
Rather, it is a work in progress. Have you wanted to switch
careers? Now is the time to begin the research phase.
Have you wanted to improve your skills?
Now is the time to take that class you have been talking
about. Decide NOW what your next move is.
Once you know what you want, implementation is less
difficult.
5. Get In Action
What is your first step? Your second, your third? One step
each day gives you thirty steps completed at the end of the
month. Goals are not reached overnight.
They are achieved with consistent movement over time.
Get yourself into action. This will be the catalyst that
will move you in the right direction.
6. Stop Struggling Through Your Career By Yourself
Are you moving at a consistent pace? If not, enlist the help
of a friend, spouse, coach, colleague, etc. Someone who will
listen and support you through this uncertain period in your
life. Standing still or moving backwards can be frustrating,
and disheartening.
Remember that you do a disservice to your career and
yourself when you work through your career concerns alone.
7. Reward Yourself
Yes, the final reward may be more money, a promotion, or a
new career, but do not forget to reward yourself along the
way for your hard work and effort. A year from now, you will
not be the same person you were before your career was
shaken up a bit. And, you'll smile to yourself because you
will know that this is a good thing.
So what do you say? You only have one life to live
so it might as well be a life you love!
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Deborah Brown-Volkman is a noted Career Coach and Mentor
that shows senior executives, managers, professionals,
coaches, and students how to have a career that soars.
Deborah is the author of Living A Life You Love, The Pathway
To Personal Freedom, and the creator of the 21-Day Career
Empowerment program, a self-directed system that gives
participants the insight, clarity, and knowledge to lead
themselves to a more satisfying career. To Learn More Visit:
http://www.surpassyourdreams.com,
send an e-mail to info@surpassyourdreams.com
or call (516) 432-2440.
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